With Milad after a spectacular release concert of their second album November 2012. We also collaborated on the song “Love’s calling”. Check out BTG at http://www.bloodtypeG.org and get your copy.
With Milad after a spectacular release concert of their second album November 2012. We also collaborated on the song “Love’s calling”. Check out BTG at http://www.bloodtypeG.org and get your copy.
June 22nd 7pm-9pm, I will be releasing my single track on since the first album – No More Limbo in 2009.
Yes it has been three years before I could bring out something new to the table. During that time a lot has been happening as far as spiritually, mentally, physically, socially, economically, musically and most importantly family. There has been a lot of learning and growing, a lot of dying in dispositions and self, a lot of challenges and a lot of seeking God and His will.
I am really excited to see how this song will do in the lives of the people in the market place and churches. The relevance of the composition is identical to what many people are subconsciously going through-fast pace. As a result of being in the fast lane, families and individuals are suffering as they are caught up in the systems that never slow down. The results are manifested in stress, anger, disease and several other maladies that ripple in to national and international proportions.
I am not against speed or being on the fast lane, I am simply saying there is time for everything as the wise King Solomon said in Ecclesiastes chapter 3 of the bible. So many people stay on the fast lane until they dissipate to termination as they become the walking dead or zombies. Think of a dead fish in a fast moving river…it looks very much alive in movement but it’s been dead for a while.
I got the idea for the song from a sermon that my Pastor preached under the title Soul Matters. It was a series of eight messages preached by Pastor Hennie Bosman at the Rock Church of Temecula California. It was July 24th, 2011 when he got to the second series titled ” Hurry Up and Wait”. As I listened to the message, I could not help but appreciate the mastery of the Holy Spirit conviction and creative inspiration at the same time. The moment he said “….slow down to enjoy the service…” then I got the title of the song. Why at that particular moment? It was when I caught myself busy multi-tasking mentally while sitting in the church listening on the fly. While my body was seated, my mind was still on the roll subliminally. I was convicted to a personal silent prayer that went like this ” Lord, SLOW ME DOWN to listen to your word; in Jesus name!” As he approached the end of his sermon, he read a prayer titled “SLOW ME DOWN LORD.” Whooo!!, the same prayer I did earlier in the beginning of the service and the title of the song that I had already considered; that got my attention even more. It was clear in my heart that a song had to come out of this.
The song is beautifully crafted in smooth reggae with lyrics that will remind you that simple prayer ” SLOW ME DOWN”. It is through slowing down and being still in God’s presence that we will find answers and vital activity.
Follow the link and listen to the message:
Welcome to the release: Robbin’s Nest 41911 5th Street, Ste. 100 Temecula, CA 92590.
Thanks for stopping by and remember to slow down.
Session One and Two: Foundation for the weekend conference.
Theme: What You Don’t Value You Will Loose It.
Participatory Exercise: Couples separated across the room to answer the questions.
(If you had sex before marriage please make note of your observation)
The goal of the exercise: dig within ourselves for the purpose of contrasting the contradictions through our journey as spouses. We want to explore the key question emerging from the results – WHY?
A thriving relationship is predicated on perceived and actualized value of the parties involved and everything in that relationship.
Sub Topic: What you don’t value you loose it?
Matthew 3:17 (17And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever
believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
Matthew 27: 45-46
Tension question: How can God forsake the very Son he said he loved and is well pleased?
Insight: God values humanity to the extent of sacrificing Himself and the absolute best through Christ.
We are not exceptions when it comes to our martial relations. When spouses value each other there will be sacrifices in everything around their relationship. The value of communication, sex and finance will be an experience of growth the emerging tensions. Therefore, tensions in marriage are necessary to help us find more about us. Value will supersede tension because what you value dearly, you will sacrifice dearly.
Define value: Noun – worth, price, rate, cost, benefit, importance, significance, profit, merit…
: Verb – appreciate, respect, treasure, cherish, regard highly, rate, assess…
Examples of Value and Devalue.
Value: God sets the standard when He says; “For God so love the world that He gave….” God speaks of Jesus “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”
Devalue: 1Sam 17: 26David asked the men standing near him, “What will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes this disgrace from Israel? Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?
Devalue: The homeboy Jesus was despised as the carpenter’s son in Mark 6:1-6; 3isn’t this the carpenter? Isn’t this Mary’s son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren’t his sisters here with us?”; and Jesus says in the same text that a prophet is not without honor in his own country, among his own relatives and in his own house.
What you don’t value you loose it.
How many couples are devaluing each other every day in communication-finances and sex?
What causes the lack of value? Unresolved conflicts are symptoms of underlying primary problems, individual psychological wounds, unawareness and ineffective communication.
Another major cause is familiarity. A wise philosopher in 42 BC by the name of Publius Syrus was the first to say “Familiarity Breeds Contempt”. There are actually 4 stages to watch for before you become a victim of familiarity complex of spirit and pride is the root of familiarity.
4 stages to watch: Committed then 2. Casual next 3. Cynical, and Finally 4. Contempt
How do we rebuild value?
The ingredients to develop each others value are self confidence, satisfaction and security. These three keys will allow us to repair the damages we create in our relationship.
Lack of inner self confidence has many negative impacts. Without a healthy value of each other in communication, sex and finance to lay the foundation for our inner feelings and insecurities, our self confidence cracks and gradually erodes.
Lack of respect for individual needs and belief: If your marriage is at a place of occasional neglect of each other and less caring of each other but ourselves and materialistic gain, then we need to stop and start the value building process prayerfully. If all you here is “I am and me” then the problem is you in the first place. When you meet people who notice and acknowledge you, you appreciate and your reaction to them is worm and endearing – reason is simple – they give you a reason to believe in yourself and a demonstration of your worth or value as an individual-this increases your self confidence, personal satisfaction and sense of security as well in marriage in sex, communication, finance and raising children.
REPROGRAM: The culture and environment we relate with shape how we do things. We need a Christ centered view of life as individuals and married couples. In re-establishing the value for each other as couples, we must find a reason to believe in each other again or give each other a reason to believe in ourselves as well as having a sense of purpose and belonging. A thriving relationship is predicated on perceived and actualized value of the parties involved and everything in that relationship. It is in relationship you have revelation.
We will need to shift focus from getting end results to discovering the underlying cause of events or series of events leading up to contentment or discomfort.
Ideas: Small sessions as couples to empower each other, discussions to add value to each other in our marriage, family, finance, sex, communication and most importantly our relation to God. (VAT=VALUE ADDED TALK).
The alignment between each couple’s individual values and Godly values is the key driver of a growing and thriving marriage relationship. Developing a value system that serves each other in the marriage should be an intentional focus.
Biblical examples on value placement.
Luke 1:28, Matthew 3:17, John 3:16, John 16:13 – Value on person/People
Luke 12:20 – Value on Spiritual v/s Material gains
Matthew 25:6-13 – Value on Time
Matthew 25: 27-28 – Value on Finance
Luke 10: 38 -42 – Value on Communication
Songs of Songs – Value on relationship and specific body parts.
Close: What you don’t value you loose.
Proverbs 18:21 and Roman 12:1-2
Participants: Formulate value statements for each other in communication, finance, sex, marriage, children and God.
Presentation by: Dennis Massawe.
May 25th – 26th 2012
Back again to the blog world. As you look at my blog it is apparent that I have been missing in action since last year and the first quarter of this year. Life has been happening and I thank God for every step of the way.
2011 was a time for me to venture with a local company to establish relations and be part of forming a wonderful forum of speakers on a weekly basis, and a ministry wing. That ended in March 2012 and I am moving forward with the music side of things as well as overseeing the newly registered organization-The Fountain of Life International Center.
I am excited about the the latest single to be release June 22nd 2012. The title of the track is SLOW ME DOWN. A strong message that will challenge you to look in to your busy life. Stay Tuned!
Have you noticed the excitement about the date today, the year, the month and even particular times on the clock.
It is 1/11/11 and the time 11:11.
Numbers have significance in the bible and that caused me to find out about 11. The information should not form a basis for doctrine but rather cause us to be aware of what God is telling us individually as far as times and seasons.
Thought provoking from the Hebrew interpretation of numbers: If ten is the number which marks the perfection of Divine order, then eleven is an addition to it, subversive of and undoing that order. If twelve is the number which marks the perfection of Divine government, then eleven falls short of it. So that whether we regard it as being 10 + 1, or 12 – 1, it is the number which marks, disorder, disorganization, imperfection, and disintegration. There is not much concerning it in the Word of God, but what there is is significant, especially as a factor. You can find out incidents or events in the bible related to the number 1.
Number 10 being one of the perfect numbers, and signifies the perfection of Divine order, commencing, as it does, an altogether new series of numbers. Completeness of order, marking the entire round of anything, is, therefore, the ever-present signification of the number ten. It implies that nothing is wanting; that the number and order are perfect; that the whole cycle is complete.
Personal derivation of 2010: Granted my personal order will never thrive above God’s order but rather submit, 2010 was a year of tremendous disintegration spiritually, mentally and physically. I have had to die in many areas of my life in order to resurrect in His order. Therefore, as I continue to submit in God’s order, I want to believe that the meaning of the number 11 is characteristic to external factors that need to be conquered in, around and through me. That there are disorders, disorganization, imperfections that need to be dealt with. I would also venture to say that it callsl for spiritual alertness of such elements.
What is your perspective?
This is from the American context. I wonder what the answer would be in other parts of the world.
WASHINGTON — Is marriage becoming obsolete?
As families gather for Thanksgiving this year, nearly one in three American children is living with a parent who is divorced, separated or never-married. More people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren’t needed to have a family.
A study by the Pew Research Center, in association with Time magazine, highlights rapidly changing notions of the American family. And the Census Bureau, too, is planning to incorporate broader definitions of family when measuring poverty, a shift caused partly by recent jumps in unmarried couples living together.
About 29 percent of children under 18 now live with a parent or parents who are unwed or no longer married, a fivefold increase from 1960, according to the Pew report being released Thursday. Broken down further, about 15 percent have parents who are divorced or separated and 14 percent who were never married. Within those two groups, a sizable chunk – 6 percent – have parents who are live-in couples who opted to raise kids together without getting married.
Indeed, about 39 percent of Americans said marriage was becoming obsolete. And that sentiment follows U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.
In 1978, just 28 percent believed marriage was becoming obsolete.
When asked what constitutes a family, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without children, fits that description. But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with children or a single parent. Three of 5 people said a same-sex couple with children was a family.
“Marriage is still very important in this country, but it doesn’t dominate family life like it used to,” said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University. “Now there are several ways to have a successful family life, and more people accept them.”
The broadening views of family are expected to have an impact at Thanksgiving. About nine in 10 Americans say they will share a Thanksgiving meal next week with family, sitting at a table with 12 people on average. About one-fourth of respondents said there will be 20 or more family members.
“More Americans are living in these new families, so it seems safe to assume that there will be more of them around the Thanksgiving dinner table,” said Paul Taylor, executive vice president of the Pew Research Center.
The changing views of family are being driven largely by young adults 18-29, who are more likely than older generations to have an unmarried or divorced parent or have friends who do. Young adults also tend to have more liberal attitudes when it comes to spousal roles and living together before marriage, the survey found.
But economic factors, too, are playing a role. The Census Bureau recently reported that opposite-sex unmarried couples living together jumped 13 percent this year to 7.5 million. It was a sharp one-year increase that analysts largely attributed to people unwilling to make long-term marriage commitments in the face of persistent unemployment.
Beginning next year, the Census Bureau will publish new, supplemental poverty figures that move away from the traditional concept of family as a husband and wife with two children. It will broaden the definition to include unmarried couples, such as same-sex partners, as well as foster children who are not related by blood or adoption.
Officials say such a move will reduce the number of families and children who are considered poor based on the new supplemental measure, which will be used as a guide for federal and state agencies to set anti-poverty policies. That’s because two unmarried partners who live together with children and work are currently not counted by census as a single “family” with higher pooled incomes, but are officially defined as two separate units – one being a single parent and child, the other a single person – who aren’t sharing household resources.
“People are rethinking what family means,” Cherlin said. “Given the growth, I think we need to accept cohabitation relationships as a basis for some of the fringe benefits offered to families, such as health insurance.”
Still, the study indicates that marriage isn’t going to disappear anytime soon. Despite a growing view that marriage may not be necessary, 67 percent of Americans were upbeat about the future of marriage and family. That’s higher than their optimism for the nation’s educational system (50 percent), economy (46 percent) or its morals and ethics (41 percent).
And about half of all currently unmarried adults, 46 percent, say they want to get married. Among those unmarried who are living with a partner, the share rises to 64 percent.
_About 34 percent of Americans called the growing variety of family living arrangements good for society, while 32 percent said it didn’t make a difference and 29 percent said it was troubling.
_About 44 percent of people say they have lived with a partner without being married; for 30-to-49-year-olds, that share rose to 57 percent. In most cases, those couples said they considered cohabitation as a step toward marriage.
_About 62 percent say that the best marriage is one where the husband and wife both work and both take care of the household and children. That’s up from 48 percent who held that view in 1977.
The Pew study was based on interviews with 2,691 adults by cell phone or landline from Oct. 1-21. The survey has a total margin of error of plus or minus 2.6 percentage points, larger for subgroups. Pew also analyzed 2008 census data, and used surveys conducted by Time magazine to identify trends from earlier decades.
Couples and family therapist turned ranty writer.
Divorces, like snowflakes, are each one unique in the havoc they wreak on our lives. I am somewhat grateful to the disintegration of my marriage for teaching me a lot about myself and about relationships, and though I wish it hadn’t been such a taxing lesson, I wouldn’t change a thing. Here are some of the lessons I learned from my divorce.
Marriage isn’t just about two people who fit together well. It’s about two people who figure out how to fit together well.
When things start to feel a little off in your marriage, that is when you should do something about it. Instead of retreating to your children, your work, your separate friends, video games, or anything else, hoping it’ll pass, stop and call out what you see. Discuss it.
Awkward conversations are painful, but they’re way easier than divorce, resentment, and heartbreak.
Never marry because it seems like what you should do.
Just getting along with your spouse isn’t enough. You have to function as business partners, best friends, and objects of desire.
No matter how secure you may be in your marriage, always keep your friends and family close to you. Your spouse should never be your only emotional support.
You have a right to your happiness. Leaving when things are terrible is sometimes an easier decision than leaving when things are just quietly not great, but it’s worth doing.
Once passion is gone, it is hard to get it back. It’s easier to turn up a burner that’s on simmer-low than to relight the pilot light.
You can survive starting over. You can, as an adult, have your heart broken/break someone’s heart, get through separating your things, go through court proceedings, move out of your home, and learn how to be single again.
Further, you can put a bed together yourself. You can kill insects, pick a movie to watch, get your oil changed, throw a party, go grocery shopping — all of these things are tasks you can do on your own.
Taking a vacation with your spouse in order to reboot your relationship isn’t the answer. You’ve got to be able to have fun with someone while you’re at the grocery store, driving home, or just living life. Who wants a vacation spouse?
It’s difficult, but it’s worth the struggle to keep your emotions from seeping into decision-making that should be cut and dry. For anything from dividing belongings to court hearings, ask yourself “Am I doing this because it’s necessary, or to inflict pain?”
Compromise doesn’t mean that you change who you are to satisfy another person. It means that you care about someone enough to be willing to adjust yourself so that both of you can benefit. Compromise is not “giving in.”
You cannot get through a divorce on your own. Lean on your support group and be willing to let them comfort you. You don’t have to be strong all of the time.
Nothing happens in a vacuum. No matter the circumstances of your divorce, it didn’t happen TO you, it happened with you. Dive deep and figure out what your part was in your marriage failing. Don’t blame yourself, but rather learn from your behaviors — what you ignored in your spouse, the patterns you fell into, etc. Figure out how you fit in, and it will empower you for future relationships.
Don’t ever give up on the idea of love. That’s a coward’s way out.